Breaking the Addiction to Please: Goodbye Guilt - Couverture rigide

Barbanell, Les

Couverture rigide

ISBN 10 : 0765706741 ISBN 13 : 9780765706744

Editeur : Jason Aronson Publishers, 2009

Synopsis

Many people are responsible for taking care of an aging parent, an ailing spouse, or a handicapped child and do so out of love, devotion, or obligation, and many others have caretaking occupations in the areas of nursing, social work, counseling, and so on. But there are other less benign caretakers in our midst. These people have an excessive need to be needed, and they assume the caretaking role not out of love, obligation, or choice of profession but due to unconscious motivations over which they have little control. This addiction to pleasing others can be as debilitating as substance addictions.

Les Barbanell shows that this addiction, which he calls caretaker personality disorder, masks psychological conflicts and can be a self-destructive force leading to exhaustion, emptiness, even suicide. Barbanell provides strategies for learning to say no, retraining ones focus from others to oneself, gaining freedom from past traumas and abuse, and learning to express rather than repress feelings in order to find a balance between kindness and a pathological level of selflessness. This book is a must-read for those suffering from the addiction to please, their families, and psychotherapists and counselors who work with them.


Praise for Les Barbanells Removing the Mask of Kindness

Barbanell delineates the pathological side of selflessness and argues, as the title suggests, that kindness can serve as a psychological mechanism for concealing emotional problems….The author effectively charts the defining characteristics of a heretofore-unrecognized diagnostic category: caretaker personality disorder (CPD). …Recommended. -CHOICE

Les Barbanell reveals a new and shocking defense mechanism that individuals use to hid psychological conflicts. The caretaker personality disorder helps explain why an accommodating, sacrificing individual, who is always concerned with others, can end up miserable and feeling incomplete. A must read for anyone in the helping professions.
-United States Association fo

A propos du livre

À propos de l'auteur

Les Barbanell is a current faculty member, supervisor and training analyst at the New Jersey Institute for Training in Teaneck, New Jersey. He has published articles on a variety of subjects that include narcissism, selflessness, exercise and sports psychology, adolescence and relationships. He has a general psychotherapy practice in Englewood Cliffs, New Jersey and specializes in the treatment of helping professionals.

Détails de l'édition

• Éditeur: Jason Aronson Publishers
• Date d'édition: 2009
• Langue: anglais
• ISBN 10: 0765706741
• ISBN 13: 9780765706744
• Reliure: Relié
• Nombre de pages: 120
• Coordonnées du fabricant: non disponible
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