Out of the Box: 7 Elements for Raising a Self-Directing Child - Couverture souple

Maerz, John Lawrence

Couverture souple

ISBN 10 : 098643647X ISBN 13 : 9780986436475

Editeur : Emotional Troubleshooter LLC, 2018

Synopsis

We all feel proud and complemented when our children come to us for advice. But how much should they depend on us and how much of their decision-making process should be a result of their own experience and thinking? And if they don’t come to us, where else will they go? Their peers? The media? Their teachers? Their pastor? Odds are, all these different sources will have different ideas and a vested interest in what they should or shouldn’t do. Is there truly a right and wrong way to do things? Can we really know what’s best for our children in the long run? Probably not. Their lessons will be different than ours.

Our culture tells us that we should think for ourselves, yet it tends to ostracize those who don’t align with the opinion of their clan or social group. In our aligning, we tend toward training our children to seek advice and permission for all important decisions from us and the authorities we respect and honor. Granted, we want our children to live in harmony and follow the laws and rules that keep things running smoothly. But to what extent is it healthy to follow only what has been prescribed by our culture? At what point does it begin to block or interfere with their creativity and their ability to be self-sustaining?

If we want to guide them, yet leave their spirits unfettered, we must, at some point, cut their apron strings and support them in surpassing what we have become and accomplished. We do this by encouraging them to think for themselves, listen to their feelings and to be patient while they put things in motion.

Too often we so much want our children to be successful but chain them to the ways and methods that we have used to arrive at our own current position in life, which is often not where we want them to be. We want them to avoid the mistakes that we have made yet we emphasize the methods that we have used to arrive there ourselves. The fight between our inner honesty and need for control is tremendous and often buried deep within our unconscious. It’s hard for us to let them defer to their own judgment.

Rather than prevention, we can use words of encouragement designed to help them listen to their own heart and counsel instead of the “constructive criticisms” that so often cripple and hobble their spirit. Out of the Box gives us the tools to enable our children to do just that. It also gives us, their parents, the steps to take to help us with our insecurity in letting them go.

A propos du livre

À propos de l'auteur

John Maerz is an author, professional speaker and instructor with a specialization in psychological study. He has worked as a counselor and as a case manager with teen substance abuse in social services and in child protection. John a seasoned personal coach, adviser and lecturer and has a diverse background in the human potentials field incorporating personality influences, shadow work, nutritional needs, creative expression and personal desires while uncovering innate abilities and hidden potentials for his clients. Mr. Maerz’s life experience and teaching experience extends into philosophy and the eastern arts including Tae Kwon Do, Chi Kung and T’ai Chi Ch’uan. He is dedicated toward raising awareness while sharing his own unique understandings and perspectives about life’s journey and meaning. He recognizes the need for balance and accountability on our mental, physical and emotional levels as well as fulfilling our spiritual potential through acknowledging and incorporating our individual experiences.

Détails de l'édition

• Éditeur: Emotional Troubleshooter LLC
• Date d'édition: 2018
• Langue: anglais
• ISBN 10: 098643647X
• ISBN 13: 9780986436475
• Reliure: Broché
• Nombre de pages: 120
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