What's Your Grief?: Lists to Help You Through Any Loss - Couverture rigide

Haley, Eleanor; Williams, Litsa

Couverture rigide

ISBN 10 : 1683693027 ISBN 13 : 9781683693024

Editeur : Quirk Books, 2022

Synopsis

A friendly and accessible book of 75 lists that will help anyone experiencing a change or loss—for readers of Maggie Smith, Cheryl Strayed, and Katherine May—from the creators of the popular What's Your Grief website and community.

Losses, big and small, turn your world upside down. What’s Your Grief? will help you through all of them.
 
Many life changes need to be grieved, from the loss of a loved one to the loss of a job, from a breakup to a relocation, and all the rest of life’s ebbs and flows. In What’s Your Grief?, mental health professionals Eleanor Haley and Litsa Williams help you examine, investigate, and move through the complex but universal experience of grief.

Through seventy-five engaging, informative, and accessible lists, such as to-do (and not-to-do) lists, bucket lists, interactive lists, and more, you’ll discover:

• 5 Little-Known Truths About Grief
• 4 Reasons Guilt Is Even More Complicated Than You Think
• 9 Tips for Communicating What You Do (and Don’t) Need
• 7 Common Defense Mechanisms
• And much more

There’s no single way to experience grief. But this unique book will help you move through whatever it looks like and feels like to you.




 

A propos du livre

À propos de l'auteur

Eleanor Haley, MS and Litsa Williams, MA, LCSW-C are the co-founders of the online grief community What’s Your Grief. Together they run the grief education and creative exploration websites 'What's Your Grief' and 'Grief in Six Words'. Both are mental health professionals with a collective 24+ years of experience working with people coping with all types of complicated losses and life transitions.

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Introduction
Welcome to a Book We Wish You Didn’t Need

Dear Reader,
It’s hard to welcome someone to a book like this. On the one hand, we wish you didn’t need it. On the other hand, we’re genuinely glad you’re here.
     As part-time skeptics, we tend to pick up books (especially self-help books) with caution. Though we don’t want to assume that you’re equally dubious, we’d still like to provide you with a little background about this book by answering a few key questions.

Why did we write this book?

As mental health professionals working in the field of grief and loss—and as people who’ve experienced grief ourselves—we’ve always seen it as our job to help people understand the vast range of emotions and experiences considered “normal” after loss. That’s why we founded the online grief community What’s Your Grief in late 2012. Since then, we’ve written hundreds of articles about grief and loss that are read by millions of grieving people and grief-support professionals each year.
     We began writing this book in 2020. (And if you don’t remember what happened in 2020, this book’s life in print is far longer than we ever imagined.) That was a year of major change—of cancellations, quarantines, remote work, loss, loneliness, sickness, and death. It was a year in which everyone’s eyes were open to the various shapes grief can take because everyone was experiencing loss on some scale. Still, many people also second- guessed their feelings and wondered, “Is it selfish to grieve things that seem minor when so many people are sick and dying?” Our simple answer to this question is no. Here’s why:

Though some losses may seem smaller than others, your losses are valid and worthy of recognition, no matter the size.

There’s no threshold one has to meet to feel grief-like things.

One person’s grief doesn’t take away from another’s.

     Regardless of the type of loss you’ve experienced, only you know the extent of your pain and struggle. Your grief is a distinct and subjective experience influenced by many factors. Here are just a few:

Grief is a reflection of you and your relationship with who or what has been lost.

Loss often sets off a domino effect of subsequent losses. So you’re likely grieving a web of interconnected losses.

We all experience hardship, stress, and emotion differently. There is no one right way to grieve, there isn’t a standard timeline, and there are many (many, many) ways to cope.

     Thanks to myths and misconceptions about grief, people often assume it’s formulaic. They think X type of loss will cause Y amounts of pain. Or they believe they’ll simply go through grief ’s stages and come out on the other side. But grief isn’t predictable or uniform; instead, it’s highly variable and individual.
     The individuality of grief makes it hard to understand, and people often feel thrown when their experience doesn’t align with their expectation. It’s common to wonder, “Is this normal, or am I losing it?” But most of the time, the answer to this question is, “Yes, you are normal.” As the Holocaust survivor and psychiatrist Viktor Frankl wisely wrote in his 1946 book Man’s Search for Meaning, “An abnormal reaction to an abnormal situation is normal behavior.”
     We can’t save anyone from the messiness of grief, but hopefully we can help make it more manageable.
     And in many ways, managing (rather than overcoming) grief is the goal. Or, if you prefer a different goal, you can choose tolerating it, integrating it, living with it, understanding it, maybe even growing from it if you’re feeling ambitious. We know these goals lack a sense of closure compared to overcoming grief, but the truth is that this process is ongoing and most people don’t just “get over it.” This idea may be scary—but you will be okay, we promise.
     Because as your relationship with grief evolves, you will likely also find hope and healing by changing how you respond to, cope with, and conceptualize grief. That’s what we hope this book will help you do.

Détails de l'édition

• Éditeur: Quirk Books
• Date d'édition: 2022
• Langue: anglais
• ISBN 10: 1683693027
• ISBN 13: 9781683693024
• Reliure: Relié
• Nombre de pages: 302
• Coordonnées du fabricant: non disponible
• Personne responsable: Simon and Schuster Netherlands BV; info@simonandschuster.nl; ; Herculesplein 96; Utrecht; 3584 AA; Pays-Bas