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You know you want to say no. So why do you hear yourself saying yes?
You tell yourself it's easier to keep the peace. You don't want to disappoint anyone, seem selfish, or make things uncomfortable.
So you agree. You adjust. You explain. You give a little more.
And somewhere along the way, your own needs become the easiest ones to ignore.
But when did being kind start requiring you to abandon yourself?
WHEN BEING NICE COSTS YOU explores the hidden patterns behind people-pleasing, approval-seeking, overgiving, and the guilt that often follows choosing yourself.
It looks beyond the usual advice to “just say no” and explores why setting a simple boundary can feel so difficult—even when you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or quietly resentful.
Through relatable situations, compassionate psychological insights, guided reflections, and practical exercises, Miya Kuan invites you to recognise the habits you may have mistaken for kindness.
Inside, you'll explore how to:
Recognise the difference between genuine kindness and self-abandonment.
Understand why saying no can trigger guilt or anxiety.
Stop constantly seeking approval and managing other people's reactions.
Set healthy boundaries without becoming cold or uncaring.
Handle disappointment without automatically taking responsibility for it.
Reconnect with your needs, choices, and sense of self.
Build healthier relationships without always putting yourself last.
This book isn't about becoming selfish. It's about understanding why choosing yourself has felt selfish for so long.
You can care deeply without giving endlessly.
You can be considerate without agreeing to everything.
And you can be a good person without making yourself the last person who matters.
Because the real cost of being nice isn't always what you give away. Sometimes, it's how much of yourself you learn to leave behind.
THE UNLEARNING SERIES — BOOK TWO
Unlearn the Patterns. Understand Yourself. Live Differently.
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When Being Nice Costs You (Paperback)
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Paperback. Etat : new. Paperback. Do you say yes when you want to say no-and then feel guilty for even wanting a boundary?You agree to help when you're already exhausted.You rewrite messages so you won't sound rude. You notice the smallest change in someone's tone and immediately wonder what you did wrong. You worry about disappointing people, over-explain your decisions, and sometimes give more than you actually have to give.From the outside, it can look like kindness.Inside, it can feel like losing yourself.When Being Nice Costs You is a practical guide to understanding and unlearning people-pleasing-without becoming cold, selfish, or uncaring.Because kindness isn't the problem.Losing yourself to keep everyone else comfortable is.Inside, you'll learn how to: Recognize when kindness has turned into people-pleasingStop saying yes automatically when you really want to say noUnderstand why other people's disappointment can feel so uncomfortableStop overthinking someone's tone, silence, or reactionBreak the cycle of seeking approval and reassuranceTell the difference between healthy guilt and guilt caused by old patternsSet clear boundaries without becoming harsh or distantStop over-explaining your decisions and limitsHandle pushback without immediately abandoning your boundaryGive, help, and care for others without abandoning yourselfYou'll also find practical exercises, reflection tools, boundary scripts, and simple frameworks designed to help you notice your patterns and respond differently in real-life situations-with friends, family, relationships, and work.This isn't a book about caring less.It's about making your kindness a choice instead of a requirement.You can be generous without being endlessly available.You can disappoint someone without being a bad person.You can say no and still be kind.You can care about others without disappearing from your own life.You don't have to become harder.You just have to stop proving you're good by how little space you take up. This item is printed on demand. Shipping may be from multiple locations in the US or from the UK, depending on stock availability. N° de réf. du vendeur 9798171380960
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WHEN BEING NICE COSTS YOU: Stop Overgiving, Seeking Approval, and Feeling Guilty for Choosing Yourself (THE UNLEARNING SERIES)
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When Being Nice Costs You : Stop Overgiving, Seeking Approval, and Feeling Guilty for Choosing Yourself
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Taschenbuch. Etat : Neu. Neuware - You know you want to say no. So why do you hear yourself saying yes You tell yourself it's easier to keep the peace. You don't want to disappoint anyone, seem selfish, or make things uncomfortable.So you agree. You adjust. You explain. You give a little more.And somewhere along the way, your own needs become the easiest ones to ignore.But when did being kind start requiring you to abandon yourself WHEN BEING NICE COSTS YOU explores the hidden patterns behind people-pleasing, approval-seeking, overgiving, and the guilt that often follows choosing yourself.It looks beyond the usual advice to 'just say no' and explores why setting a simple boundary can feel so difficult-even when you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or quietly resentful.Through relatable situations, compassionate psychological insights, guided reflections, and practical exercises, Miya Kuan invites you to recognise the habits you may have mistaken for kindness.Inside, you'll explore how to: - Recognise the difference between genuine kindness and self-abandonment.- Understand why saying no can trigger guilt or anxiety.- Stop constantly seeking approval and managing other people's reactions.- Set healthy boundaries without becoming cold or uncaring.- Handle disappointment without automatically taking responsibility for it.- Reconnect with your needs, choices, and sense of self.- Build healthier relationships without always putting yourself last.This book isn't about becoming selfish. It's about understanding why choosing yourself has felt selfish for so long.You can care deeply without giving endlessly.You can be considerate without agreeing to everything.And you can be a good person without making yourself the last person who matters.Because the real cost of being nice isn't always what you give away. Sometimes, it's how much of yourself you learn to leave behind.THE UNLEARNING SERIES - BOOK TWOUnlearn the Patterns. Understand Yourself. Live Differently. N° de réf. du vendeur 9798171380960
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Paperback. Etat : new. Paperback. You're always there for everyone else. But when was the last time you were there for yourself?You say yes when you want to say no.You apologise even when you haven't done anything wrong.You worry about disappointing people, replay their reactions, and feel guilty whenever you choose your own needs.From the outside, it may look like kindness.But somewhere along the way, being "nice" can become a habit of abandoning yourself.When Being Nice Costs You is a practical guide for anyone who is tired of overgiving, seeking approval, avoiding conflict, and carrying responsibility for everyone else's feelings.This isn't a book about becoming colder, selfish, or uncaring.It's about learning that you can be a kind person without constantly sacrificing yourself to prove it.Inside, you'll discover how to: - Recognise the difference between genuine kindness and people-pleasing- Understand why saying no can trigger guilt and anxiety- Catch the automatic "yes" before it leaves your mouth- Stop measuring your worth through other people's approval- Separate your responsibilities from other people's emotions- Set boundaries without becoming harsh or distant- Stop overexplaining every decision you make- Handle disappointment without immediately trying to fix it- Make choices based on what you actually want-not only what keeps everyone else happy- Build self-trust through small acts of self-loyaltyThrough relatable everyday situations and practical tools such as The Automatic Yes, The Guilt Check, The Boundary Translator, The Approval Pause, Responsibility Check, and The Self-Loyalty Question, you'll begin to recognise the patterns that quietly keep you stuck.Because someone being disappointed doesn't automatically mean you've done something wrong.Someone disagreeing with your boundary doesn't make the boundary unfair.And choosing yourself doesn't mean you've stopped caring about everyone else.Kindness isn't the problem. Losing yourself in order to keep everyone else comfortable is.When Being Nice Costs You is Book Two of The Unlearning Series-a practical self-growth collection about recognising the patterns you've carried for years, understanding why they exist, and learning that you are allowed to choose differently.Set boundaries. Let go of guilt. Choose yourself-without losing the kindness that makes you who you are. This item is printed on demand. Shipping may be from our UK warehouse or from our Australian or US warehouses, depending on stock availability. N° de réf. du vendeur 9798171380960
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