Defense Mechanisms: within reach of (almost) everyone - Couverture souple

Pedrazzi, Alessandro

Couverture souple

ISBN 13 : 9798172060663

Editeur : Independently published, 2026

Synopsis

Why do we do things we don’t want to do? Why do we become attached to people who hurt us? Why do certain emotions arise without warning and for no apparent reason?

The answer, almost always, lies in one of the mechanisms described in this book, which compiles and organizes a topic that is often somewhat fragmented across various technical manuals.

Defense mechanisms are the invisible strategies our minds use to manage pain, anxiety, fear, and conflict. We don’t consciously choose them; they happen automatically, even before we realize it. They are the hidden operating system of our psyche: they work silently, around the clock, protecting us from what we would struggle to tolerate. Sometimes with great intelligence. Sometimes, as the title admits, in a very clumsy way.

This book stems from a simple need: to make a subject accessible to everyone that all too often remains confined to university classrooms or clinical psychology textbooks. The author, a psychologist and psychotherapist with years of experience, has created something rare: a text that speaks with precision without being boring, that cites Freud, Kernberg, Winnicott, Bion, and McWilliams without turning into a treatise, and that uses stories, metaphors, and relatable situations to take the reader exactly where they need to go—inside themselves.

What You’ll Find Inside

Each chapter is dedicated to a specific mechanism: from acting out to splitting, from projection to sublimation, from denial to humor. Each section stands on its own: you can read the book from start to finish, or—and this is perhaps its greatest strength—you can open it to whatever piques your curiosity most. Do you recognize something in the way a loved one behaves? Go to that chapter. Have you noticed a behavior of your own that you can’t explain? Look for the mechanism that most resembles you. There’s no set order, because the human mind doesn’t work in chapters.

What This Book Really Teaches You

You’ll understand why you became attached to that person who, rationally speaking, you knew wasn’t right for you. You’ll understand why certain breakups are impossible even when they’re necessary. You’ll understand where that inexplicable nervousness comes from that grips you at certain moments—that baseless guilt, that anger you feel toward someone but that perhaps belongs to someone else or to another era of your life.

Above all, you’ll understand that almost no one hurts others (or themselves) because they’re “bad”: almost always, behind the most self-destructive choices lies a clumsy, disproportionate, ill-timed defense mechanism of a mind that was trying to survive.

Who Is This Book For

For those curious about human nature and seeking practical tools to understand themselves and the people close to them. For those who have begun (or are thinking of beginning) therapy and want to arrive prepared. For psychology students looking for a lively introduction before diving into academic texts. For those who work with people (teachers, educators, doctors, managers) and want to understand what lies beneath the surface of behavior. And for those who have simply asked themselves, at least once in their lives: why did I do that?

No specific background is required. All it takes is the willingness to look—with a little courage and a lot of curiosity—at the place we usually don’t look: inside.

Détails de l'édition

• Éditeur: Independently published
• Date d'édition: 2026
• Langue: anglais
• ISBN 13: 9798172060663
• Reliure: Broché
• Nombre de pages: 270
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