The Fear or Joy of Missing Out - Couverture souple

Bender, Michael

Couverture souple

ISBN 13 : 9798182798433

Editeur : Michael K. Bender, 2026

Synopsis

You already know this feeling. Your phone lights up, and for one unguarded second, you feel two things at once.

Through vivid, true-to-life scenarios - a retired teacher adjusting to the quiet of an empty schedule, a search-and-rescue volunteer who has never felt torn about a weekend the way he does about this one, a father watching his teenager pull away, a widow rebuilding an ordinary Tuesday - this book introduces FoJoMo: the blended, simultaneous fear and joy of missing out. Grounded in real research on social comparison, memory, and habit - the same forces behind hedonic adaptation, social pain, and the pull of the group - it's built around a handful of tools you can use before your next notification finishes buzzing. This is not a book about feeling less. It is a book about hearing both voices clearly enough to finally choose on purpose.

The stakes are higher than they used to be. Every year, the feeds get a little better at knowing exactly which notification will pull at you the hardest, and unmanaged FOMO quietly compounds - one small decision at a time - into a life built by default instead of by choice. This book was written to interrupt that drift before it hardens into a habit.

Inside, you'll learn:

• • The Split - a sixty-second habit for naming both voices before they name your evening for you
  • The Ledger - four honest questions for weighing what a decision really costs, before you make it
  • A simple, repeatable filter for building a life that answers to your own priorities, instead of whatever your feed decided to show you tonight
  • A clear-eyed look at where this feeling actually comes from - ancient wiring built for small tribes, now running on a feed with no edges
  • A practical read on when each voice, fear or joy, is actually right, and when it's worth overriding

The book is organized in four parts - naming the feeling, understanding where it comes from, building a practical toolkit, and turning that toolkit into a standing practice - followed by a set of appendices built for actual use: a one-page quick reference for the moment the feeling arrives, a thirty-day practice plan, guidance for applying the tools at work and in relationships, a discussion guide for book clubs and teams, a glossary, a set of frequently asked questions, and a full notes and sources chapter crediting the research behind every idea.

This book is written for anyone who has ever stared at a phone, torn between staying in and worrying they should be somewhere else - and who is tired of being told that one half of that feeling is the problem and the other is the cure. It doesn't ask you to opt out of your life or your feed. It asks you to finally understand what you're actually feeling, so you can decide, on purpose, what to do about it.

Détails de l'édition

• Éditeur: Michael K. Bender
• Date d'édition: 2026
• Langue: anglais
• ISBN 13: 9798182798433
• Reliure: Tapa blanda
• Nombre de pages: 176
• Coordonnées du fabricant: non disponible
• Personne responsable: non disponible