The Parent You Aspire to Be: Your Child Isn't the Problem - Couverture souple

Miles Carter

Couverture souple

ISBN 13 : 9798999157737

Editeur : Twin and Tine, 2026

Synopsis

What do you say to the four-year-old screaming because the screen got taken away…to the kindergartener slamming the door and yelling "I hate you"…to the eight-year-old who picks fights at bedtime, refuses school on Monday morning, and won't eat anything that isn't beige?

If any of this is your house this week, take a breath — you're not failing. The old playbook (sticker charts, time-outs, counting to three, the calm-down corner you spent a weekend building) just isn't built for a small human whose mind is shaped by a different world. You need a new way in.

This gentle parenting book offers one — for parents of preschoolers and school-age kids who'd rather understand a meltdown than survive one. Across seven sections, it works through the hardest, most ordinary moments:

- What to do when the screen goes away — and why the tantrum that follows looks like withdrawal
- How to handle back talk, lies, and the rude words that catch you off guard
- Why bedtime is a battle — and how Monday's school refusal really starts Sunday night
- What's underneath picky eating, last-minute stalling, and the big emotions of a highly sensitive child
- And gently, for you: how to stop yelling at your kids when you didn't mean to, calm your own anger before it becomes mom rage, praise so it builds, repair the closeness after a hard moment, and loosen the urge to correct every small thing

Inside, you won't find theory. You'll find what one parent actually tried — what worked, what didn't, what they'd do differently. Side-by-side scripts of what to say (and what to stop saying). Three small shifts for the kid who can't seem to start anything until the last minute. The reason your child lies isn't what you think — and the question that opens the door instead of closing it.

Here's the truth most parenting books skip: we expect children to fall asleep alone in a dark room while we scroll our phones next to a partner. We ask for calm words from a four-year-old we just snapped at. Kids are still learning how to be people — and how to regulate their emotions. They need patience for that. So do you.

Decades of child development research point to one quiet truth: the way you praise, the way you react, and the way you repair after a rupture shape the mind your child carries into adulthood. Effort over outcome. Connection over correction. Presence over control.

Whether you're a mom or a dad, a first-time parent or raising your third, this is positive parenting you can use on an ordinary Tuesday — not a perfect day.

Tonight, when the meltdown comes — and it will come — you'll meet it differently. Not because you've fixed your child, but because you've finally been given the tools, and the permission, to parent the way you always sensed you could. Open this book. Read one section before bedtime. The closeness you've been longing for is closer than you think.

Détails de l'édition

• Éditeur: Twin and Tine
• Date d'édition: 2026
• Langue: anglais
• ISBN 13: 9798999157737
• Reliure: Paperback
• Nombre de pages: 181
• Coordonnées du fabricant: non disponible
• Personne responsable: non disponible