Emotional Safety: Honoring Yourself While Creating Trust and Presence to Experience Meaningful Relationships

“How do we find the love and belonging we need and protect our hearts at the same time? In Emotional Safety, Alex gets to the heart of this central dilemma in our relationships. He validates our need for safety, teaches us how to reclaim our personal power, and presents hopeful strategies for nurturing deep human connection. Everyone with a beating heart can benefit from reading this book.”
—Paul Sigafus, LMFT, Executive Director of Colorado Counseling Center

“If you’ve been puzzled about how specifically to recognize and create emotional safety, this book is for you! Alex Avila unpacks the qualities of emotional safety—being safe and creating and maintaining safety—in concrete ways that have been lacking in similar books. With clarity and vulnerability, Alex details core elements of safe relationships and helpfully connects some of the challenges in doing so with earlier life experiences. This is a much needed primer for a concept that is deceptively complex. Well done, Alex! I’ll recommend this book to all of my clients.”
—Marnie C. Ferree, LMFT, CSAT, author of No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction and co-author of Out of the Doghouse for Christian Men: A Redemptive Guide for Men Caught Cheating

“Simply stated, Alex Avila gets it. Contained in the pages of this book is the roadmap to understanding yourself, others, and relationships. Building on his work as a therapist, Avila draws from the best models of attachment and trauma to provide the building blocks for connection, intimacy, and necessary boundaries in relationships. This book is masterfully written and a must read!”
—Craig S. Cashwell, Ph.D., LPC, NCC, ACS, CSAT-S, Professor, William & Mary

“Emotional Safety adds an invaluable resource for any person seeking closer, safer and more fulfilling connection with other people. From intimate partners, to family or friends, author, Alex Avila, succeeds in illuminating the essential need for personal boundaries with our innate desire for closeness. From developing our own emotional “passcode,” identifying abusive, emotionally unsafe people sooner, to learning concrete intimacy skills to use with safe people, the books clarity and practicality stand out. Emotional Safety provides the reader with a tangible roadmap for self-exploration with increased emotional awareness combined with concrete tools to co-create closer, healthier relationships with those we love.”
—Jim Thomas, LMFT, International EFT Trainer, Attachment Driven Addiction Recovery Developer/Trainer, Director Emeritus Denver Family Institute, and provider of nationally renowned couples therapy intensives

Emotional Safety is now a concept we can fully understand! More than a book, this practical guidebook gives you tools and techniques to help you understand yourself better and build deep, lasting relationships.

Written by a licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, this groundbreaking examination of relationships will help us all become emotionally, relationally and mentally healthy while staying true to who we are.

Whether in a romantic relationship or not, you will learn a lot about yourself—why you do what you do, and how to identify and express your legitimate feelings and longings.

Following the same guidelines, you and people close to you will feel confident bridging gaps in your different personalities and communication styles and approach each other with informed sensitivity.

Learn new ways of looking at the forgiveness and trust-building processes and eliminate feelings of guilt when you wisely retreat to your safe zone.

Reading Emotional Safety, you will finally gain solid, personal insight that will help you experience freedom and enjoy an intimate connection with your newly crafted safe, inner circle!