Guts: Combat, Hell-raising, Cancer, Business Start-ups, and Undying Love: One American Guy's Reckless, Lucky Life

Book by Nylen Robert

Chapter One
Black Ice  

A warm day in late December 2007 proved me nuts, and an idiot, again. I was in a hurry. Had to drive 190 miles south from our western Massachusetts home to take a meeting in Manhattan and then go to a party. Hastily, I gassed my car at Neighbors convenience store. As I sped away, a pretty girl at the next pump was trying to tell me something...important. She waved Gasoline spewed sideways. My sweet Samaritan retrieved her barefoot toddler and ran away to avoid being blown up. Mortified, I tried to reconnect the line to the pump. It was like trying to cap Old Faithful with a saucer. Gas soaked me, making me a potential torch. One spark and I’d be a one-man Hindenburg. I raced inside to rinse my stinging eyes with tap water. Blearily, I watched volunteer firemen assess the risk. Mere seconds after my SS Valdez had breached on dry ground, they determined that therewasn’t much chance of an explosion. The dry air had sped evaporation. The damage: roughly five hundred dollars for the pump, four bucks’ worth of kitty litter to absorb runoff, and a day out of service for Neighbors’ regular pump.  

Went home. Threw away my parka, rabbit-fur hat, and mittens. Bathed. Sniffed. Bathed again. Changed into fresh clothes. Rushed to Manhattan, eyes oozing. The sublime Ta­conic Parkway blurred by, its lovely scenery unseen. Stopped a couple of times to slather ointment on my aching face. Dabbed tears every few minutes.  

Over tea in the Soho Grand Hotel, my face afire, I told a young woman that I usuallydidn’t look like a molting cha­meleon. Not knowing my baseline of ugliness—it was our first meeting—she lied, sweet Charlize Theron to my grotesque Hellboy.  

“You look fine!”  

Next, it was party time. Beliefnet’s directors and bankers nestled in a posh Greenwich Village restaurant to celebrate the sale of the company. Steven Waldman and I had started Beliefnet in 1998 (after wecouldn’t find money to start a print magazine). We changed the fledgling project into an online medium, got plenty of money, then even more money, and then we went bankrupt. I’d quit before the company declared Chapter 11 after discovering I was both irreligious and aspiritual. Long after I’d left, Steve had reorganized, raised more money, and led the pared-down company to success.  

On May 1, 2007, Beliefnet won a National Magazine Award for Online Excellence—despite never having published a real print magazine. Steve graciously thanked me before 2,300 hundred bejeweled, bedecked media mavens, John Waters, Edie Falco, and K. T. Tunstall in Lincoln Center. Meanwhile, I was attending to my busted ostomy appliance in themen’s room. Every unpleasantness is a learning opportunity. A double-breasted tuxedo and a big, wide cummerbund effectively disguiseone’s failed artificial plumbing system. (Perhaps I should wear a cummerbund everywhere: Whole Foods, Target, the Ashfield Hardware Store, and evenings with friends: festive!) Six months later, RupertMurdoch’s Fox Entertainment had paid us a pretty penny—tens of millions of pennies—for Beliefnet, but then again,they’d paid sixty-five times more for The Wall Street Journal.  

That evening, I explained my horrid face to seven fellow board members, one by one. Like young Charlize, they pretended not to notice my ruddy, scaling skin from a potion incendiary and toxic drugs that Estée Lauderdoesn’t sell. Alone, each ingredient makes you peel in red, scabby slabs. Mixed, you look insane, too.   Back in western Massachusetts the next week, I asked Neighbors’ proprietor, Phil Nolan, how much I owed him. He said:“It’s all taken care of, Bob.Don’t worry.”That’s whathe’d said when I pulled the same stunt several years earlier. (I’m easily distracted.) Therefore, I’ll buy gas, Budweiser, Berkshire Ale, and donuts at Neighbors as long as Phil lets me. Though my ruddy face was molting like snakeskin, it was no longer as painfully fire-truck red as on Gasoline Day. I might have been healing from a bad sunburn. Having slathered cocoa butter over my sore, frazzled mug, wearing a ski mask, I walked our retrievers into the woods, singing with Fountains of Wayne on the Nano:  

The snow is falling down   On our New En­gland town   And it’s been falling all day long...  

Scaring the wildlife, I felt so darned good I would have clicked my heels if itwasn’t so hard in snowshoes. Brought the dogs back home. Invigorated, I took a spin on the handy-dandy Honda all-terrain vehicle. Fading winter sun lacquered the ground in a glowing pink-yellow. In the gloaming, the landscape looked like Taos, not the icy environs of Berkshire East. Four-wheel drive would get traction on the trail.  

Wrong. Two hours later, Environmental Police officers riding big Arctic Cats pulled the ATV from the snowbank where I’d lodged it, close enough to our cozy house for me to have slogged back for a shovel and wasted an hour trying to dig free. The ATV was irrevocably stuck. It was dark and the temperature was sinking when Trooper Dave Unitas and his sidekick reminded me that ATVsaren’t meant to go through snow deeper than eight inches. Four feet of snow and sleet had fallen in the last month, compacting into a thick, slick ice shelf.  

Weirdly, I was reprising a wintry day two years before. Back in early January 2006, my suicide vehicle had been a little truck. Snow blanketed our little town, a fine, rare powder that seldom lasts long. A shimmering gossamer quilt had floated and drifted for days. In austere New En­gland, such lily-pure, fluffy stuff rarely cossets us, so we expect to be quickly punished by sheets of nasty gray sleet, ice, and slush. On January 20, the weather had turned predictably bad, but Ican’t blame frostbite or snow blindness for my misjudgments. Warming wind had brought chilly rain. The temperature was rising, but the ground was still frozen. On impact, the rain became glare ice.  

My scary slither that morning to my truck would have convinced a wiser person to go back inside. The driveway was an ice rink. Propelled by chronic ants-in-pants, I sought coffee and newspapers. Sure, the road was a toboggan run that might send me helter-skelter, but the rain was tolerable. The temperature had reached 42 degrees. Summer!  

We find negotiating our winter roads no harder than pioneers found crossing the Sierra, so I began my journey cheerfully. My wife, Kit, knows I’m not much of a planner. Well,that’s kind: I have no long-range thoughts. I’m impulsive: slow to think, quick to act, lousy at risk assessment, and incapable of forward thinking. Oblivious, in a word—that’s me. Normal people are risk-averse. I like driving fast and partying heartily. Still, this morning, I was wary. The military crest of Bug Hill Road is 1,750 feet. That may not rival the Rockies, but Neighbors store sits in a low glen. Dropping down to the paved state road, Bug Hill falls four hundred feet in six-tenths of a mile: steep. So what I did was creep, shimmy, and skate across coarse black ice. The hump in the middle of the road that lets slush run off also makes vehicles slip-slide to the flank. I put the little 4x4 into low gear. Descending a few feet at a time, I stood on the brakes. Theroad’s sloped shoulders made my plow burrow into the snowbank. (We wriggle from trouble by shifting into reverse, then going forward, rocking gently, hoping the transmission holds up.) A small electric motor turned the hydraulic plow into a pry-bar, aiding the tranny.  

However, the third time the truck lodged in a deep bank, I started rethinking my plan, such as it was. Our driveway needed salt and sand. So I thought: forget papers and caffeine: get winter road mix from the town warehouse to help UPS, DHL, Airborne, FedEx, and George Propane deliver our wool­ens, Polarfleece, Gore-Tex, and natural gas. The steepest stretch behind me, I was committed. At some point, the road crew would come in a yellow truck strewing grit, making the road passable. When? I could wait. Sure. I could be patient. (As if!) Lifelong attention deficit disorder precludes me from simulating patience. Where was Ritalin when I was coming up? I have no off switch. When I’m not walking or running, I’m not still. Never. My body agitates and jiggles.  

Anyway, a town truck might not come for hours. Crews clear bigger roads first. At a curve in the steepest stretch of Bug Hill Road, my Tacoma skidded again. Brakes grabbed erratically. Suddenly I saw a little station wagon inching uphill toward me. For every two feet it climbed, the wagon skittered a foot back. Up, down, slide. Me, I was going down. I flashed my lights in warning, but our neighbor, nineteen-year-old Kit Adams-Henderson, was aiming for her warm hilltop chateau.  

This was the precise patch of road on which our own sturdy wagon had jackknifed in a late-night ice storm in 2003. After my wife and I had abandoned our Saab wagon, we traipsed home and called a tow truck. At two a.m., the wagon led a vehicular slide-a-thon with the tow truck and town police cruiser, all going downhill exactly where young Kit was now spinning her wheels. Her wagon sliced across the road and stopped precariously as my rusty plow slid into the right bank. I clambered out the passenger door, where crunchy snow offered traction, unlike the glassy road surface. ReachingKit’s car, I shoved. She rocked. I grunted. She shifted, accelerated, and reshifted. Pushing and shoving was unwise; my second dumb decision that morning. With each shove, a chunk of intestine protruded farther through a jagged aperture in my belly.  

My twelve-day-old abdominal hole, as big as a Susan B. Anthony d...