Synopsis
Book by Pogrebin Abigail
Extrait
Introduction
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A year after my first book was published, my editors called me in to talk about ideas for my next project. I remember they asked me what I found myself thinking most about, which subject had always preoccupied me. I blurted out, “Twins.”
And then I immediately regretted it. Because writing about twins felt like I was volunteering to do a public striptease. Because being a twin goes to the core of who I am and I was wary of examining that. Because I knew that my twin sister, Robin, would be both supportive and hesitant; not only is she more private than I am but she writes for the New York Times and always wants to maintain a reporter’s remove. Because I knew that as exhilarating as our twinship was growing up, its impact on Robin’s sense of self was more complicated than mine. Because I knew that for me to be honest about my twinship and ask others to be honest about theirs was not to tell the perfect quaint story of how we all dressed alike, tricked people, or swapped boyfriends.
Being an identical twin—I can’t speak for fraternals—is intense. It’s all the clichés: feeling like you have an unwavering partner in life, knowing exactly what another person feels, wanting to tell her a story before anyone else, confiding with unrestrained—sometimes shocking—candor, valuing her opinion above anyone else’s, taking on someone else’s pain to the point of vicarious depression, being incapacitated by any minor dispute.
To say that someone’s “always been there for me” was never meant so literally. Robin was there while I was taking shape in the dark muck of our mother’s belly, before I took my first breath of air, when I was lolling in the crib, learning to grab and chew, teetering on two feet. I have never been alone in the world. I’ve always had someone
to tell, someone checking in. Though I’m our parents’ firstborn, I’ve never been an only child. I arrived as a package—the kind that’s self-contained and comes with its own handy playmate, sidekick, advocate, therapist, fan, mentor, and accomplice.
I can’t count the number of people who have asked us, “What was it like growing up as a twin?” The question lost its meaning over the years because we heard it so much and answered so often automatically: “It was great.” “It was great.”
I never mention that my twinship helped me meet people when I wasn’t bold, kept me from ever feeling idle or rootless, confirmed I was deeply known when others misunderstood me, allowed me to dive into theater because I had an automatic “sister act”, and to bypass the normal freshman-year anxiety in college because Robin was in a dorm across the street. It’s hard to explain to people that we never felt competitive, though we constantly compared ourselves; that we couldn’t hate each other, though we could argue bitterly; that we tacitly forbid anyone else to criticize one of us, even though we can be ruthlessly critical of each other; how it is that we never lusted after each other’s boyfriends, though we adopted them affectionately; that we always want to talk to each other, though we don’t always make time to see each other; that we love each other’s children, though not as our own; that we admire each other’s work, yet would never want to switch places.
I never explain that we tell each other everything but that there are things we don’t say.
Or that Robin has spent the last five years pulling away from me.
Or that I want more of her.
I don’t talk about how perfect our twinship was in childhood, why it isn’t perfect anymore, yet that I still believe it’s the best twinship I know.
Though Robin’s and my story is not the focus of this book, it is, undeniably, its spine. It’s the prism through which I listened to every other twin’s experience, the test case with which I tried to deconstruct the elements of individuality, the emotional puzzle I set about taking apart and piecing together.
Our facts, bare bones, are these:
We were born May 17, 1965, at Doctor’s Hospital in New York City. Robin had a lot of hair; I had none.
My mother recalls the names my father was mulling before we arrived: Troilus and Cressida, Anthony and Cleopatra, Julius and Ethel. I was named after my father’s father, Abraham, who was a hat blocker. Robin was named after my father’s cousin, Robert, who died in a car crash at twenty-two.
I came out one minute ahead, but only because we were delivered by C-section—Robin would have exited first in a normal birth, and she constantly reminds me of that fact.
I stood, crawled, and walked ahead of Robin; I don’t constantly remind her of that fact.
We spent our first five years living on the ground floor of a Greenwich Village brownstone; each of us had our own crib; then we shared a bunk bed (Robin was on top and once rolled out, thudding to the floor). Later we moved to the Upper West Side and got our own bedrooms at age fourteen.
Mom dressed Robin in red (like the bird) and me in blue so that people not constantly ask “Which is which?” But we still often ended up in the same outfit—fluffy winter coats, yellow slickers, and OshKosh B’Gosh overalls.
Both of us were instantly outgoing, cheerful, and hammy. We performed constantly, without prompting. No one can say why; my parents weren’t theatrical. They were exuberant, yes (Dad, a labor lawyer, is funny at dinner parties; Mom, a writer, is politically impassioned), but they weren’t performers.
Robin and I had more dress-up clothes than real clothes and our main activity—with friends or more often just with each other—was to dress up and “act.” We used British accents and a lot of flea-market costume jewelry.
We sang and choreographed by ourselves, almost daily. We were each other’s taskmasters, quick to chastise when one of us missed a step or flubbed a lyric.
Our parents were summoned night after night to “buy” tickets to our makeshift show, and in front of the scratchy green blanket we hung between closets, we belted out our latest numbers.
We choreographed a “ballet” routine to Aaron Copland’s Rodeo, complete with pantomimed lassos; we wrote a medley for our annual family Hanukkah party, with lyrics set to Broadway show tunes. (For example, “Don’t cry for me Antiochus; the truth is I burned the latkes!”)
For the annual Labor Day Show on Fire Island, where we spent childhood summers, Robin and I painted on too much red lipstick (the photographs are almost clownish, and I can’t believe no adult saved us from ourselves) and sang duets like “Downtown.” We fronted for the cute Weber brothers, who played guitar and drums while Robin and I slapped tambourines against our nonexistent hips.
When we were nine, we were interviewed by Marlo Thomas on the TV version of Free To Be . . . You and Me, because our mom was an editorial consultant on the project. I got more air time. At one point on-camera, I tell Marlo that I love being a twin because when you have a lot of feelings, “It’s good that I can have somebody to bring it out to—who’s my age.”
When we were ten, we auditioned together in polka-dot shirts for the role of an orphan in the original production of Annie. The casting directors said they would take one of us; we had to choose which. Neither of us took the role.
That same year, a producer chose us to be in a TV show called Call It Macaroni, which filmed kids learning an interesting profession. Robin and I were taken to Tucson, Arizona, to watch how a movie is made, and the camera made much of our likeness. I was surprised, when I recently dredged up my diary from that trip, to discover that Robin and I had chosen to sleep in the same bed in our hotel room, leaving the other bed empty. On my crude diagram of room 112 at the Desert Inn, I scrawled on one of the double beds, “Robin and I slept in this one together.”
When we were thirteen, we were asked by Channel 13 to shoot a promo for something with Erik Estrada—I can’t remember what. We were dressed alike, and the gambit was that Robin punched herself in the arm and I yelled, “Ouch!”
We wanted to do more professional acting, but our parents didn’t like the idea; they wanted us to have a normal childhood.
Robin and I always shared birthday parties. My mother created elaborate themes—a French party with berets and paper Eiffel Towers, a baseball party with personalized jerseys, et cetera. We always shared one cake.
We made sure we ate the same number of Oreos after school.
We always got the same cavities in the same teeth.
Our brother, David, was born when we were almost three. We were loving to him and cast him in the role of the dog or passenger in our skits, but we also left him out. My aunt tells me we were mean to him. I don’t remember it that way and neither does he, but it’s possible. Today David and I are close: We take an annual ski trip together (he’s divorced), I’ll stop in at whicheve...
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