Looking at the World Through a Fractured Lens

It is long past time for the subconscious mind and the effects of subconscious clutter to be given front and center attention. The same attention should also be given to the effects of grief that has never been acknowledged, resolved, or completed.

The residue of our past is imprinted and stored in the body and subconscious mind, and has shaped our beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world around us. It is my heartfelt belief that the root causes of a significant number of the physical, mental, and emotional dis-eases that thousands of people endure each day originate in the subconscious. Starting in the womb, and on through childhood, adolescence, and adulthood our subconscious mind and the cells of our body have been "recording" the words and experiences we have encountered. These words and experiences imprinted on our subconscious mind have played a significant role in the formation of mental blocks, habit patterns, and beliefs that are now shaping our lives.

It has been estimated that at least ninety per cent of what is referred to as our "mind" is the subconscious mind. That is a vast and fertile area below our conscious awareness that has, and continues to, record all that is happening to us and around us every single day of our lives. Our unconscious mind and the cells of our body are holding an enormous amount of emotional memory that we are not consciously aware of, and is impacting our lives every day.

Every person on earth experiences multiple losses throughout her/his life, and some losses are small while others are large. These losses start early in life and continue throughout our life. Each time we experience a loss we will grieve to one degree or another, and the majority of the time there will be some things that are left unfinished, unresolved, or incomplete. When we experience the death of someone we love, a divorce, or breakup of a relationship, there will be much we wish had been different. The residue of each loss builds on the previous loss. So, the grief we feel is compounded and complicated by the previous losses we have experienced. When we suffer a significant loss, the subconscious clutter of our past will deeply impact the grief we feel surrounding the present loss. The grief we are feeling due to the present loss will resonate and awaken a variety of past subconscious memories. It could be memories of long forgotten feelings from previous loss, forgotten feelings of abandonment, mistreatment, or any number of other emotional or mental wounds suffered long ago.

The impact of our subconscious mind and grief that was never resolved, cannot, and should not, be underestimated. What is the relationship between the subconscious and prolonged anxiety, or depression, or insecurity, or a variety of physical ailments? Are we experiencing depression, anger, or anxiety because we are still grieving a loss from long ago that we thought we had "gotten over"? Is our grief more prolonged and intense because we are already angry, depressed, or chronically anxious due to a forgotten past wound that is still thriving in our body and subconscious? Are we angry, guilt ridden, or depressed because we have an addiction, or do we have an addiction because we are angry, guilt ridden, or depressed about something that happened long ago and cannot be consciously remembered? Is something that happened years ago still exerting a toxic influence on our lives today?

Most people tend to ignore the signs of emotional or mental pain, and too often, even physical pain. If we do not ignore the pain, we put a band-aid of some sort over the wound so we can" keep on keeping on". Consequently, in one form or another, adults will pass on to their children, the indignities, pain, criticism, or judgment that was inflicted on them. The pain is perpetuated from one generation to the next. Most adults are not consciously trying to pass on their pain, disappointments, or fear

Ms. Haddad has spent the past 30 years educating and counseling people of all ages in areas as diverse as scientific principles to caring for and healing the mind, body, and emotions. As a Holistic Behavioral Therapist, Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, and a Grief Recovery® Specialist, Ms. Haddad has conducted numerous seminars in California and Oregon. In 2007, her first book, Looking At The World Through A Fractured Lens- Subconscious Clutter and Grief Distort Our Vision, was published following the suicide of her only brother. Ms. Haddad has now released a book that combines her many years of experience working with others and her many years of tears traveling her own journey. The book is meant to bring hope, inspiration, and encouragement to everyone who has ever wondered why they were here or doubted their own talents and abilities, or doubted their own worthiness to achieve success, prosperity, or love in their lives.