Synopsis
Book by Tenzer Debbie
Extrait
Chapter 1
Do One Nice Thing with Friends and Family
It’s been said that friends are the people who know all about us and like us anyway. True! But they are so much more. They get our jokes, they’ve got our backs, and they know what we’re thinking even when we don’t say a word.
Sometimes all we need from them is a hug, a squirt of laughter, or a reality check. At other times, industrial-strength caring is required— like long phone calls into the night and special deliveries from the Casserole Brigade. And even if we don’t hear from them for months or even years, when we need our friends, they come.
So, what do you give those who give so much to you?
This chapter is full of nice things to do with and for your friends— from surprising them with a treat on their desk or doorstep to creating a group charity project or a priceless gift from the heart.
Contrary to what some think, friends are not “a dime a dozen.” They are the family we choose—precious and irreplaceable. And if we’re really blessed, our family members are also our friends, so this chapter is for them too.
What’s Cooking?
Cook a meal for a friend who recently moved into a new home, is recuperating from an illness, or just needs some love.
Mmmmm. Nothing says love like chicken soup. Its steamy golden goodness always makes us feel better. So when one of my friends needs some TLC after a family-rocking event, I head straight for the kitchen, pull out my big soup pot, and get busy.
Here is my favorite chicken soup recipe, given to me by my dear friend Ziva, which I now give to you. It is so easy that even I can’t spoil it. I’m not sure that it will cure what ails you, but it will definitely warm some hearts.
Ziva’s Chicken Soup
You will need these ingredients:
6 chicken legs or thighs
2 peeled onions, whole
1 peeled parsnip, whole
6 celery stalks, chopped into 1-inch pieces
6 carrots, peeled and chopped into 1-inch pieces
1 bunch of flat-leaf parsley, whole
1 bunch of fresh dill, whole
1 bay leaf
1 tablespoon salt
1 teaspoon pepper
1 chicken bouillon cube
Toss everything into a big pot. (I told you it was easy.) Cover with 10 quarts of cold water and heat. Bring to a boil; then simmer for an hour. Discard the onions, parsnip, parsley, and dill. Strain the carrots, celery, and chicken; store in a covered container in the refrigerator. Cool the broth and store it, covered, overnight in the refrigerator. Skim off the fat. When cool, cut up the chicken. Then return the carrots, celery, and cut-up chicken to the broth in a big pot. You may also add other vegetables, noodles, rice, or dumplings. Heat thoroughly and adjust the seasoning.
“We had just moved into our new house when I came down with the flu. My two toddlers had it too. When my husband arrived home from work he was greeted by our next-door neighbor, a widow in her seventies. He mentioned that we were sick. An hour later she knocked at the door carrying a pot of homemade potato soup, just like my mom used to make. What a healing effect that had—on the tummy and on the soul!”—Sharon
Hooked on Running
Run or walk with your friends in a charity marathon. Or if you’d prefer to exercise your administrative muscles, how about assisting the staff?
Sharlene Wills is a devout distance runner. She trains regularly, competes in marathons, and enjoys training off the beaten path in the hills. She also happens to be blind.
She said, “I couldn’t pursue this wonderful sport without the unselfish and voluntary help of many very nice people.” She often runs with a runners’ organization called LA Leggers. Some of the Leggers members volunteer to be tethered to her in order to guide her during her runs.
Sharlene explained, “One of the volunteers, Maneesha Bhate, is a pretty fast runner, having finished the LA Marathon in about four hours. She’s very unselfish, though, and often paces or runs with slower folks like me, even when they don’t have to be guided.”
“Technically, I participated in the AIDS Run, but I’m not sure if what I did qualifies as running; maybe it was the AIDS Waddle. It may be a cliché to say it was one of the hardest things I have ever done, but also one of the most satisfying, but it’s true. I developed a family unit with the group of strangers from a variety of backgrounds that I trained with. We all supported each other over a five-month training period and then we ran the marathon together. When I was dragging, someone was there to encourage me to complete it. And the great thing was we did it to raise money for a wonderful cause.”—Mike
The Potluck Club
Get together with your friends for a potluck meal and moral support— then select a charitable cause to support together.
“My friends and I get together periodically at my house to make greeting cards for the troops. It’s a lot of fun and we have a great time ‘solving all the world’s problems.’ Instead of bringing me hostess gifts (who needs more stuff?), I suggested we start a donation piggy bank. Whenever we get together, Matilda the Pig gets fed with whatever anybody wants to give.
“Last Christmas was Matilda’s first full year of ‘feedings,’ and with the proceeds I was able to buy holiday gifts for a needy family and send five care packages to the troops in Iraq and Afghanistan.”—Gisela
PARTY!
For your next birthday or anniversary, ask your friends to bring you a gift that you can donate to a local school or shelter, such as art supplies or canned goods.
“For my thirtieth birthday last fall, I had a huge party with all of my friends and relatives. But I didn’t really need anything, and I didn’t want more unusable items to clutter up my home. So instead, I asked all of my party guests to bring one item of nonperishable food, which would be donated to my local food bank. The response was overwhelming! The party was held in the basement of my church, so we just had to take the contributions upstairs to where we always collect food for the food bank. It took four trips to carry it all.”—Laura
The Gift that Keeps on Giving
What should you buy for a friend who has everything? Nothing! Send a card and mail a donation to charity.
You can also give when you shop on eBay. EBay Giving Works offers thousands of auctions that donate to charities. When you shop, look for the charity ribbons or search for charities. If you’re a seller, list items to benefit a cause that you care about (www.eBayGivingWorks.com ).
“I do online banking and pay my bills with automatic billing. So I designated our local food pantry to receive $5.00 per week. It’s money they need, and I won’t miss it because it’s already in my budget.”—Susan
BINGO!
Invite friends over to play a game and chat instead of going out.
My girlfriends and I get together every so often to eat lunch at one of our homes and play mah-jongg, also known as mahj. I confess: I am a terrible player. How bad am I? My friends need to refresh my memory about the rules every time we play. They also guide me throughout the game and grant me “takeovers” when I make a really bad mistake. This is mercy mahj.
But it doesn’t matter because I don’t come for the game—I come for the company. I love seeing Judi, Gail, and Joanne. We don’t have the chance to hang out together as much as we used to, so we make the most of our mahj games. While we munch on our lunch, we share work and family news, skewer politicians, and swap tips on everything from acupuncture to jury duty. And sometimes I even get lucky and win a round of mahj.
“The other night, instead of going to a movie and spending the money on tickets, an activity where no conversation happens, we used the money to buy a board game. We had a great time playing and invited friends over to play. The next time we’re tempted to see a movie, we have a couple of new games to play with our friends. When we get tired of the games, we’ll give them to a charity so kids can use them.”— Melanie
Highly Recommended
Write a “letter of recommendation” for one of your friends, or add it to a birthday card. Mention all of her or his best qualities and why she/he is precious to you. I guarantee you are going to make someone happy.
A friend of mine always dreamed of finishing college but he was unable to pursue his studies because he needed to work. After many years, he was finally able to return to school.
I was flattered when he asked me to write a recommendation for him, and when he read it, he was very touched. His reaction made me realize that he didn’t know how much I appreciated him. How often do we take the time to tell our friends these things?
Too Big to Wrap
Give your loved ones a one-of-a-kind gift: time with you.
Give the people you love hand-made coupons offering to:
9 make them breakfast in bed
9 keep them company on a trip to the doctor, DMV, or mall
9 help them clean out their closets or garage
9 work with them in their garden
9 take them out for a movie, concert, dinner, or hike.
My children used to make coupons for each other as birthday gifts. When they were small the coupons said: “I will read you a story” . . . “I will play a game with you” . . . “I will bring you cookies.” And when they were older: “I will make your breakfast” . . . “I will clean your room” . . . “I will give you piggyback rides all day.”
These gifts cost nothing, but thei...
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